On Tuesday nights, Wanda and I join our friends Wilma and Dale at a Quiet Communion worship service in San Jose. It’s a refreshing time for us as we enjoy an evening out and a reflective time for our spirits.
A couple of Tuesdays ago, Wanda was not feeling well enough to go but she encouraged me to go alone.
Wilma made a delicious dinner and afterwards Dale left to pick up someone for the service. Wilma and I picked up the dishes and then we left in my car to meet Dale at the church.
When I tell a story, I sometimes get distracted and don’t always pay attention to what I am doing. I think it’s a case of not being able to walk and chew gum at the same time or something. But the simple fact is that as we left the house, Wilma reminded me to lock the front door with the spare key I have on my ring. I definitely held the key up when we were on the porch. But the story was just at the “juicy part” and I don’t remember anything else before I was backing out of the driveway.
I left Wilma at the chapel entrance and then parked the car. As I walked from the lot to the chapel, I thought about the story I had told. I grinned. It was a good story! I thought about how I was able to use the holding up of the front door key as a “point-maker.” I chuckled. And as I walked up the aisle during the gathering music was, I suddenly froze. Did I ever actually use the key to lock the door???
I would feel horrible if anyone got into Wilma’s house while we were at the service, so I slipped in behind Wilma and whispered in her ear. “I’ll be back. I can’t remember if I locked the door.”
She looked back at me and after a brief hesitation, nodded.
So, I hurried back to my car, drove it to their home, checked the door (it was locked), and drove back to the church just in time for communion.
Wilma had obviously been frightened. Later I found out why. She thought I meant I forgot to lock my car door. So, when I didn’t return right away, she worried that I had fallen in the parking lot. She had sent Dale out to look for me. When he came back and reported that my car was gone, Wilma decided that Wanda had called me on my cell phone and I had to rush back to meet her in the emergency room and I hadn’t had the time to call them yet. Sometimes communication is a tricky thing! The fault was clearly mine for not specifying it was the house door I needed to check. One little word caused Wilma untold angst. And yet I was sure I had communicated everything clearly. I was sure no one would misunderstand.
I’m glad I have a friend who is forgiving of my shortcomings . . . and who loves me enough to worry about me! And I’m delighted to learn again that communication is a participation sport that needs to be carefully played!
– Jon